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Why we’re staying

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Prague is home. We have a good life here. We have a sweet church, good friends, a house that serves us well, and a city we like living in.

We also have lots of people we love holding the ropes for us in the USA. Parents, friends, family, churches. A whole network of supporters that makes it possible for us to be here.

One of the toughest questions we’ve faced the past few days has been deciding where to meet the enemy of cancer. We have no desire to leave Prague, but going through a trial like this in your own culture has its advantages. And this isn’t just happening to us, but to Eliza’s grandparents and aunts and uncles and cousins too. Not to mention that we have lots of friends who don’t usually get to be with us, who would love the chance to surround us and carry us through this battle.

So we’ve talked ourselves in circles, prayed the “We do not know what to do, but our eyes are fixed on you” prayers, gone back and forth, and decided that we feel good about doing Eliza’s treatment here in Prague.

There’s nothing heroic about being in Prague, just like there’s nothing magical about being in America. We’re not doing this to make a point. If we thought Eliza would get better care in Charlotte, we’d go to Charlotte– just like if we lived in Charlotte and thought she’d get better care somewhere else, we’d go there. The fact is that we have listened very carefully, asked lots of questions, compared notes, and are absolutely confident she’s getting the same great care  here that we’d expect in the States. We trust our doctors and believe they’re doing good work. (As one medical friend pointed out, thank God for a pediatrician who notices something not quite right in a quick regular checkup and jumps on it.)

The fact that the quality of care is the same frees us up to look at other factors. And for us, we feel that the stability of staying in Prague will be important for our family as we fight this battle. We don’t have to pull the boys out of school, or leave our house suddenly and indefinitely. (Been there, done that.) Between rounds of chemo, Eliza can sleep in her own bed. Friends, school, routines, church all can be familiar things that bring some sanity.

We also believe our community here is up to the challenge of caring for some needy Hunts in the next few months. Teammates are already picking up our slack, in addition to looking after us. We have a long list of people ready to translate over the phone if needed. Families (and single guys!) are bringing us dinner. Our boys are being treated like royalty. People know this will be a long haul, and they’re in it. Faith Community is ready to be our church. They are loving us well.

There are so many people who wish they could literally be by our side as we walk through this valley, and for most of you it just won’t be possible. We wish it were not so. We wish we could be close to grandparents and Uptown and seminary and college friends and cousins and Faith. But since it doesn’t work that way, we feel that staying in Prague is what’s best for our family.

I (Jake) was talking with a friend just a few days ago, before all this, who was nervous about their child being away from home for the first real length of time. We talked about how desperate we feel when it seems our kids are out of our control. But the fact is, we’re never in control. We can’t make their hearts beat or their lungs inflate, whether they’re 11 months or 11 years. The point is, “all you can do is pray” is actually a really good place to be. When the illusion of control is stripped away, we  see more clearly than usual.

None of us can ensure that Eliza beats cancer and thrives; that depends entirely on a good and all-powerful God. “All” we can do is pray. So for the many of you whose hearts hurt to do more, thank you. Your prayers and encouraging words and reminders of God’s goodness do more than you know.

“For here we have no lasting city, but we seek the city that is to come.” Hebrews 13:14

12 thoughts on “Why we’re staying

  1. Thank you so much for all this update. I am praying Prague will be soon again for your family a place of joy and victory. Thank you for your faith and open heart. Praying.

    Anna

  2. Your reasoning for staying in Prague is very sound and I know was not made lightly. I am just selfish wanting to embrace you all physically to try and make it better, like all mothers like to do when their children are hurting. Our Posey family is very special to us and we hurt when you hurt. I shall simply embrace you all with my prayers and love from across the ocean. Please know that you all are in constant thought and prayers from us. I would just love to have those guys fishing on my dock where their Great Uncle Byrd’s spirit is watching over us all. You are very blessed with some really marvelous people in your lives and I am very grateful to them for taking such good care of you all. Much love!!! Nanalou

  3. Jake and Melissa,

    We are and will stay in prayer daily for your whole family. Eliza is a precious baby that God has special plans for. Thank you for keeping us all informed on her progress and treatment so we can pray specifically.

    Julie and Tim Luschen

  4. Hi Melissa- it’s KK from AGD. I saw that Susan posted this on FB. Just wanted to let you know I’m sending up big prayers for your family and sweet Eliza!

    KK

  5. Beautiful post. And ever so true. The more we see of our utter dependence upon Him for every breath and for every breath of those we treasure, the closer we are to the eternal perspective. Praying for His grace to be rich and sweet and entirely sufficient in your lives throughout this heavy trial. And knowing it will be. And praying for a beautiful gift of full healing for your precious little baby girl. In His love, by His grace, Cathy Drobnick

  6. Just found out about Eliza. Praying the Lord will continue to surround your family with peace and that all procedures will go smoothly tomorrow.

  7. Praying for your sweet daughter and you guys this morning.

    For this reason I bow my knee’s before the Father, from whom every family in heaven and on earth is named, that according to the riches of his glory he may grant you to be strengthened with power through his Spirit in your inner being, so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith – that you, being rooted and grounded in love, may have strength to comprehend with all the saints what is the breadth and length and height and depth, and to know the love of Christ that surpasses knowledge, that you may be filled with all the fullness of God.
    Now to him who is able to do far more abundantly than all that we ask or think, according to the power at work within us, to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, forever and ever. Amen.

    Ephesians 3:16-21

  8. I read about your precious girl yesterday in my friend Jessica’s newsletter. Just wanted to say that I am praying for Eliza and the boys and you. As a first-time mom to an 8 mo old girl I can only imagine the feelings.

    Love Mary Morrow

  9. None of us has any idea all the ways Eliza’s saga will be used by our Abba to reveal Himself in all His Glory, but we can be sure that we won’t be able to count them. Expect the impossible, the miraculous, and be on the hunt (no pun intended) for His fingerprints in a bazillion ways. Through this, you will come to know Him as never before, you will see Him face to face, and you will praise Him for bringing you to this extraordinary place that you would never have reached without this trial. All is well. halleluYah!

  10. Holy Shitake…the internet doesn’t work for almost 2 weeks and this is what I come back to find out?! crestfallen (big word to say “really really really sad and sorry for this suck-y news.”) There is a time and place for positive, so might I just say, that is one AMAZING hot pink crib…and might I add that those hospital floors look cleaner than some plates I’ve eaten off of here in South Sudan – incredible! Awed by the gifts God has given you in this scary journey so far: english speaking doctors willing to translate for a ward tour?! unheard of. Un-metastasized, on the good side, and very treatable? amazing. A team already built into your life for care and support? score. The ability and freedom and resources to say “this is our home, our community, our life, our city, our health system and our daughter, we’re staying right here”? pure gift. Oh, and just a tidbit from the reaction of a pediatric nurse: a good port is the patient and parents’ and nurse’s best friend in this whole process…so thankful. Praying from down here. Much love.

  11. So beautifully written. Hunts, my heart goes out to you. I’ll be praying from over here. And I might just have to fly to Prague to see this pediatrician – what a blessing already. Prayers, prayers and more prayers!

  12. We are behind you 100%. Our prayers are for miraculous healing and strength. Let us know if there is anything we can do. God is good and He knows your needs.

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